I am Not a Social Media Mean Girl (or am I?)

Welcome back! I have been a soap opera fan since I was a little girl. I never truly appreciated the storylines and characters until I hit my 20’s and had time between classes to get obsessed with the storylines.

Even better? I had Twitter to talk to other fans in real time. No longer would I have to talk to my dog and call my grandmother to dish about the show. Yes, for a soap opera, you dish. Not talk.  Having Twitter made it easier to talk about the current storylines, the different ways they could go and my favorite characters. I especially love to talk about the characters I hated.

I would get into long conversations with people about the characters that truly drove me up a wall. Sometimes we would start to talk about the actors or actresses. Sometimes things got rough but who would notice? Twitter is a big place.

Recently, I came across an article in Soap Opera Digest that talks about a soap actress, Heather Tom, joking about being the least liked character on Bold and Beautiful only to be attacked for the joke. People talked about her acting and how she didn’t deserve her awards. She stood up for herself instead of letting the Twitter users win.

That got me thinking of all the times I’ve had conversations about actors or actresses on Twitter. I don’t think we were that mean, but more than likely these people saw a version of these tweets on their timelines. I felt my stomach clench.

I never wanted to be the mean girl. Not at this age. I’ve been the mean girl when I was nine. I didn’t like it then. Then when I got older, I became the target of mean girls and boys for many reasons. I know how it feels. Why would I do that to anyone else?

Getting caught in the moment and being sure that these people will never see my tweets is the real reason I make fun of actors and their work on Twitter. Apparently, they do sometimes see those tweets. That just makes me feel like a real idiot. When it comes to soap operas, some actors aren’t good. It is because they are learning. However, to attack an actor for something beyond their control (bad writing, bad sets, bad chemistry) is a mean girl act. Something I will admit to doing.

Maybe it is time to be more constructive with our criticism and less cruel. Let us calm the inner mean girl in all of us.


What do you think? Are you a ‘mean girl’ on Twitter or do you think it ultimately doesn’t matter when talking about actors on a television show? Comment below!

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